Racial and gender lines, in today’s society, have become so
blurred that it is difficult to define a norm. We can
look all around society and see people who are crossing over into different
arenas, wearing their hair, dressing or acting in ways that are from cultures or
ethnic groups different than their own. There’s Caitlyn Jenner’s recent
transformation from Bruce Jenner into a woman, complete with a come-hither Vanity Fair cover and television
coverage as heavy-duty as her makeup. Years ago, before Barack Obama ran for
president, Michelle Obama wore her hair in its natural kinky style. Today, she prefers
the straight, sleek look. Then, there’s the late Michael Jackson, who went to
extraordinary lengths to appear less black as he became more famous. And it can
be argued that Madonna, who is nowhere near being a natural blonde, wants to
distance herself from her Italian heritage by continuing to dye her hair.
All of those people, along with the ones who live privately,
have a right to live their lives, dress their bodies, and find common ground in
whichever ethnic, cultural or gender group they feel most comfortable. If
Dolezal feels more closely connected to the black community spiritually and
emotionally, let her. Just don’t tell people you are black. You feel black. You
like black people. That doesn’t make you a black woman.
One of the questions I asked myself prior to publishing my
first novel, Raping Aphrodite, was
whether I was “Greek enough,” to write the historical novel. The book centers
around the July and August 1974 invasion and division of Cyprus by Turkey. At
that time, I was an 11-year-old spending my summer in Virginia Beach, playing
in our neighborhood, safely away from the crisis, while my relatives in Cyprus
were running for their lives. Some, including my maternal grandparents, didn’t
make it. Those who did became refugees. As I got older, I began to think more
about my family in Cyprus, the island and its deep, rich history. My history.
Eventually, I matured to a point where I could write a book based on one of the
darkest summers in the island’s 10,000-year history. I was born in the United States but the blood
in my veins is 100 percent Cypriot. My parents, their parents and on back to
the mid-1800s, were all from small villages in North Cyprus that were inhabited
by Greek farmers and shepherds. I haven’t been able to trace back to the 1700s,
but it would be highly unlikely that we have a rogue relative from Norway or
South America. As time has marched on, I have decided that I would have to be
dead not to feel the pull Cyprus has on me. I was born and raised in America,
but I also strongly identify with Cyprus and my Cypriot heritage.
Having said all that, I also have to be careful. I am an
Americanized version of my Cypriot relatives. I look like them, but as soon as
I appear and open my mouth, they can see and hear the American in me – from the
way I dress to how I pronounce my Greek. I have to make sure I don’t pass
myself off as a native. I don’t tell people I lived there (I haven’t) or that I
experienced the 1974 invasion (I didn’t) or that I know my way around the
island (I don’t). But that doesn’t stop me from feeling the connection. The
island is where all my roots are. I just have to keep it real.
Loukia Borrell is a former journalist and the author of two
books, Raping Aphrodite and Delicate Secrets. Both books are available on
Amazon and BN.com. She lives in Virginia with her husband and their three
children.
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